Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

Latest Posts

Empowerment doesn't work without clarity and competence—empowerment results from a top-down structure. We need emancipation instead of empowerment. An emancipated team doesn't need empowerment. Because they don't need the power from the...
Top-down monitoring systems like tracking everything people do at work are not efficient. They don't work. However, we still need to collect data to monitor systems. But they should be used to make the invisible things visible and...
The feedback in relationships is about you AND the other person The feedback in relationships is never about you or me. It's about you AND me. It's a two-way street. When we hear feedback from someone else, and if they are close to us,...
In the feedback discussion, there are relationship triggers. The feedback comes from our relationship with another person. In this kind of feedback, one person starts giving feedback. The other person responds with a totally unrelated...
We create accidental adversaries because of a lack of clarity or confusion in roles. When roles are not clear, we confuse the other side. That's why the feedback we get may feel off-point; when responsibilities and roles are unclear, who...
Focus on how to pull feedback instead of giving feedback. Master the pulling feedback skills that drive our learning and curiosity. We always focus on giving effective feedback, yet whoever receives it is more important to hand over the...
Every idea in each creative process has inconsistencies and missing parts. They reveal themselves in the execution step. When an author has an idea, they don't realize the inconsistencies in the idea and don't see the missing points...
We can discover our hidden creativity instead of focusing on negativity and how incompetent we feel. Set aside some time and go over the following to find out your creative sides: Success: Think back and find out your talents and...
We can define traditional systems thinking as separating the system into parts, looking at the relationships between them, and designing the overall system while thinking about these relations. In systems thinking, the problem is...
While preparing and planning software architectures, the architect can get help from the actors/actions model to discover how the system will be used by whom. The architect defines actors and how they act in the system. The actors map...
Event Storming is a component discovery technique from Domain-Driven Design. An architect assumes that the system will use events and messages. Together with the team, they identify which events will occur and how these events will be...
The level of the architect's involvement in the project should be certain and not very deep. When architects create extremely detailed software designs, they begin micromanaging the work. This is one of the reasons why architects are...
When giving or receiving feedback, the statement is true. But I couldn't stop myself from thinking and challenging it by thinking about different cultures. Does it apply to every culture, especially where people highly avoid...
Our perception differs from others about situations, ourselves, and our behaviors. For example, when someone fails, we think they are not capable of the job or don't have what it takes. But when we fail, we say and believe that the...
Confrontational cultures such as Russia and the Netherlands drive the confrontation with honesty. They are openly honest about things, and the situation derives from their culture. Only you can be honest with yourself if you are honest...
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