Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

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How Strongly I Recommend It: 7/10 How Likely I Will Gift It: 5/10 What is Think Again Book by Adam Grant about? The book is about recognizing how much time we spend thinking and forming our thoughts and how less time we spend on not even...
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Hey friend, Over the last three years, I've realized the importance of relationships. Today, I want to talk about how I failed, how this failure cost me an extra year to get a promotion, and what I've learned. When I wanted to become an...
When a person wants to change something and consult us as a coach or manager, summarizing their request helps clarify what we understand from their desire to change and catch any misunderstandings. As guides (or coaches), we're not done...
When we listen, we give the best gift: our attention. If we take time and listen to someone, why shouldn't we do it well? We have already given our time. We could also share our attention too. When people don't give their attention while...
Regular career check-ups and running experiments in various domains are great strategies. It's difficult to see things from the outside. We often have wrong perceptions about a job until we start doing it. For example, until I became an...
Polarization is one of the biggest problems in the information age. Creating echo chambers is easy. When we face charged conversations or opposing perspectives, we often discard them and stay in our comfort zone. One of the fundamental...
"Here are a few things that helped me. Do you think any of them might work for you?" is often implicit. (Use the question instead of giving recommendations or commands.) When it's implicit, people don't understand and become resistant to...
How we grow up shapes us—all of our thoughts, lifestyle, values, and more. Growing up in a culture where work is the only thing people care about profoundly impacted how I value myself. In Turkish culture, our lives are less valuable...
When we think about conflicts at work, we see different behaviors and approaches. It's difficult to keep relationships out of work for some people. Whenever someone criticizes their work, they take it personally and become defensive. We...
The fish is never aware of its surroundings. Everywhere is water for it; thus, it will never learn from its environment. Humans form stereotypical thoughts according to the environment they are in. Due to the biological nature of...
Irrationally repeating the same arguments, staying the same line repeatedly, and not budging frustrates people, and they raise shields. If we don't present humility and never accept valid arguments, we become irrational. We can ask,...
I've been on the side of pushing my arguments more and more. I always chose the most logical side (at least the one that looked most logical to me) and always looked for extra ideas to support my reasoning. I thought I could win debates...
When Simon Sinek recommended starting with why, there was a reason behind it. One of the arguments he had was, "With a clear WHY, everyone inside the company will be able to make decisions as clearly and as accurately as the leader."...
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