Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

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When we think about conflicts at work, we see different behaviors and approaches. It's difficult to keep relationships out of work for some people. Whenever someone criticizes their work, they take it personally and become defensive. We...
I have been trying to optimize my life for a while. I looked for what I could do to organize my life. If I search about productivity and life organization, Google shows me almost four billion pages for “productivity.” I have read many of...
Hey friend, For the last two years, we have faced different challenges worldwide. Many surroundings have made us feel overwhelmed, whether it was a pandemic, being stuck at home, or wars. On top of that, we have daily work stress, which...
Reactions to feedback define how the feedback giver perceives the other person's feedback-receiving skills. When people react with anger or cry when they receive harsh feedback, it creates a picture of how they cannot handle the...
Engineers often struggle to explain their train of thought. They create processes and systems in their minds but fail to explain them using simple sentences. Good engineers often become terrible communicators and collaborators not...
It's horrifying to open our weaknesses in front of others. Especially if we're raised in a culture that promotes being the best and the strongest in society, it's challenging to admit mistakes publicly and tell everyone where our...
Creating psychological safety is challenging and demands empathy and consistent action from leaders. Keeping the environment safe is a complex dynamic, and empathy is not enough. People should trust each other first. Creating trust...
Interrogating the information instead of only consuming it helps us comprehend it as a whole and makes us more skeptical. Popularity ≠ Reliability. Being the first is not the same as being correct. Understanding the information's...
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When we grow experts in one area, it becomes more difficult to change our thoughts. It's easy to leave the learning zone. Once we form beliefs, it impacts how we learn from others. When we get feedback/input, we defend ourselves as they...
Imposter syndrome has many drawbacks. It can prevent us from being seen as strong people. But it also has advantages that can help us become better people and leaders. Being an imposter motivates us to work harder. When we feel like we...
Hey friend, I often see some engineers stick to one idea. They see the advantages of one side but don’t review their approaches if it solves the problem or not. Many engineers learn to perform a job in one way. They start to think they...
Let people be responsible while doing the work and when they have the results. If you let them work only and take responsibility when something fails, you're not a good leader. It's not different from taking all the credit when a project...
Have you ever worked with a person who always says either one or more of these sentences: I should have done that. I could have done XYZ. I should have known this might happen. It won’t happen again. I made a mistake, not others. It’s...
Hey friend, In the last Mektup, I talked about why you need to develop a Definition of Done (DoD) and what it is. Today, I will talk about creating one in the team. The Definition of Done is unique to the team, and it's an agreement with...
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