Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

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In discussions at work, encourage people to "think out loud." Do the same. Then, people will stop thinking about authority and explain their opinions as well. The same might work with saying, "Let me play devil's advocate" from The...
Knowledge sharing might seem like a lot of noise. However, when the knowledge is/might affect someone else, then it is worth it. Source(s): Turn The Ship Around; Reply via email | Reply via Mastodon | Comment
3 people assigned and two reviews are required. The more the merrier. Why do I want to do? We have a lot of (unintentionally) hidden knowledge about our services. Domain knowledge is not spread across the team. Learning domain knowledge...
When we're onboarding, we often don't know the domain and the system. On a personal level, we have many known unknowns. If we're a junior developer, then we have many unknown unknowns. That's why mentoring and code review helps a lot in...
The most convincing code review happens in four steps. First, make it obvious: explain in a very detailed form. Don't just say, please change X to Y. Explain the why so the change should be very obvious. Second, make it attractive:...
In the cross-cultural communication scale (low- and high-context), which two communication styles have more conflicts and problems in communication? Two high-context cultures: Both high-context cultures try to read the air from their own...
You shouldn't assume things. For example, when you are not sure about someone's religion, you shouldn't even try celebrating the religious days of their religion. Assuming is one of the worst strategies in cross-cultural communication....
Would you be open to hearing some feedback? How do you want to receive feedback? Written? Verbal? In private? In public? The above phrase is one of the first questions I ask my direct reports. It's also one of the questions I ask anyone...
The feedback has its meaning when it's timely. Positive feedback usually feels like a pat on the shoulder, and we usually think that we can do it at any time. However, positive reinforcement works better when it's delivered right after...
When an authoritative figure (like a CEO or manager at work) gives feedback, the feedback usually has more weight. People often carefully listen. This situation creates a fallacy for leaders: when they give feedback, they expect that...
Obnoxious Aggression occurs when you give feedback without personally caring about the person. Feedback goes out as pure, non-constructive criticism. It becomes a slap in the face, and you become an asshole boss who stabs people while...
In manipulative insincerity, you give feedback to others without personally caring and without challenging them directly. So, you give feedback for the sake of giving feedback. You tell another person what they want to hear instead of...
Every story has elements inside. Some people list fundamental elements of a story with more than five items. However, in its essence, there are only three: A character, a challenge, and a goal. The character has to resolve the challenge...
Don't throw away 101 talks. People are more engaged in them. More people don't know 101 contents. Think of it like a funnel. Whenever you go too deep, you will find fewer people. Related Note(s): 17a: Choosing a talk topic is art; 2a:...
There is no happiness without suffering. Also, suffering is not suffering while trying to reach a goal and thinking that we will be happy when we get it. The whole idea of happiness (the imagination) we await in reaching our goals is...

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