Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

Latest Posts

Our common humanity properties are related to mind, feeling, and thinking. It appears that we distinguish ourselves from other beings through the way we use our minds to direct our feelings and thoughts, in various ways—whether to...
You never know someone else’s story. When you find anyone difficult, there is always an underlying story or reason. Some people don’t understand why they behave the way they do and are unaware of their desires. Try to learn and...
Regardless of its form, belonging to a place unites people, similar to belonging to a family. Not only kinship, but also people who look alike actually like each other more. Also, when people come from similar places or families, they...
When I wrote about how much I abstract myself from daily news (1, 2, 3), many people asked me how I can stop worrying about a gazillion things happening in the world. I pondered whether I had become numb. I found out, over time, that I...
You finish one piece of work and look what’s next and see there are thousands of things waiting for you. It’s a never-ending story. Features pile up, deadlines look at you, and the pressure to go faster never lets up. Simultaneously, the...
You probably heard the word globalization countless times. But these days, after decades of pursuing globalization, we're chasing deglobalization. Rather than simply being the opposite of globalization, deglobalization is a deliberate...
For a long time, I’ve been searching for a planning methodology that fits my life. I delved into bullet point journals, to-do lists, daily notes, and the Obsidian rabbit hole. None of them worked. I followed some for months, but never...
I keep thinking about how AI is changing my life and where I should be cautious. Although I’m not against using AI to improve my life, my hobbies, and my work, I’m hesitant to apply it in some other areas, mostly gathering information...
I spent two weeks obsessing over a problem that, in hindsight, didn’t even exist. The one that was attractive to me, without asking myself whether it really mattered. My ego took over, and stubbornness kept me locked in. I stuck with the...
What you do on bad days matters more than on good days I am considering making this newsletter more helpful for you by extending its content while reducing the time required to read it. So, your return on investment should increase with...
How many times did you see someone solving the wrong problem? How many times did you catch yourself doing the same? I often catch myself focusing on the wrong problem or a non-urgent one because it's easy to focus on what we like or what...
Building character is defending against the short-term wins of your ego and pride. Only self-discipline and quieting ourselves, investing in long-term wins, can show the way to enlightenment, a fulfilled life that is driven by purpose....
Although society is more individualistic than ever and day by day becomes more individualistic, you need others’ assistance to fight your inner struggles. Some people have God to fill this gap and use it to fight prejudices, selfishness,...
“Love is submission, not decision.” — David Brooks When we love, we change. We lose ourselves, pieces of our personality. Love makes us do things that we wouldn’t do otherwise. We neither decide to love nor decide to submit; we simply go...
Staying humble is knowing that almost nothing is in our control and can change in a moment. Most of our lives are outside of our control; changes are driven by others in society, such as a boss at work, a politician, and even delays in...
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