Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

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Imaginations and daydreams are dangerous. They distance us from reality by envisioning ideals or triumphs over others or difficult situations. It forms fantasies and prevents us from celebrating our achievements; it forces us to focus on...
FOMO is selfish. It means that you must taste all experiences and always seek the newest, shiniest thing. It focuses on your experience. It spreads you too thin. You become a dopamine addict by tasting and trying everything. You can’t go...
A selfish goal is unattainable. When you want people to love you, and if you try forcing your way in, you’ll never be loved. But only when you want to learn more about others and be genuinely curious, you’ll be loved as a by-product....
Wisdom is the moral quality of knowing what you don’t know; it’s learning and handling your ignorance and limitations. You can learn someone else’s knowledge, but it will be mere information for you. Turning that information into...
One lie I used to tell myself was that I was learning a lot from social media or content online. I used this lie as an excuse to keep consuming while lying down on my couch. Later, I realized that this was only a delusion. After shutting...
What started with an experiment of living without looking at social media turned into quitting it completely, changing my reading habits, and stopping consuming news daily. As the new step of decluttering my life, I am changing my...
Charity wrote a post. It’s probably one of the things I miss the most on Twitter as well. Having the tech industry yapping about things, being a close community where you get to know a lot of opinions, and sharing what’s on your plate...
Isn’t the writing about nothing but everything at the same time? Words are written for everyone, but most are read by no one. If nobody reads them, then why do we write? I claim that I write for myself, but I rarely read them again....
Leaders deliberately plan to develop products or deliver projects. However, they rarely pay similar attention to building trust. They see trust as “natural” or “part of being a decent human being.” What they don’t know is that if they...
One of the things I miss the most in my software engineering job is being able to close the computer and stop doing the work. The work needs an external tool that you depend on. The manager’s job is different. You rarely need an external...
One of my previous managers told me, “The manager’s work happens in meetings,” while I was complaining about the lack of uninterrupted time. Now, I can say that my manager was only half right. Considering one-on-ones, alignment,...
The more I think about why organizational changes happen, the more I see that it’s merely an adjustment to the environment. The world is changing all the time. If you don’t adjust and evolve your organization with it, you’re practically...
During one-on-ones or team meetings, people sometimes complain endlessly. Managers struggle to understand how to respond to their direct reports’ complaints. They become people’s venting sponges, having no idea how to react or take...
In February, I gave a talk at the DecompileD Conference in Dresden, Germany, titled “Building Incident Management Skills.” I shared how we built and implemented the Incident Coordinator Role, which is focused on reducing the pressure...
“Act as if…” When you’re trying to get buy-in, share information and drive decisions, always put yourself in your audience’s seats while preparing. Ask yourself what they would expect from your presentation, as well as your strategy and...

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