When our lives pass without contest, conflict, or friction, when our lives pass without success or merit, we’re merely filling existence. Our lives become useless and purposeless. The person who commits, strives, conflicts, penetrates the hardship, seeks the inconvenient, and crosses the ocean of difficulties to...
Imaginations and daydreams are dangerous. They distance us from reality by envisioning ideals or triumphs over others or difficult situations. It forms fantasies and prevents us from celebrating our achievements; it forces us to focus on what’s left undone and makes us stuck on unattainable future possibilities....
FOMO is selfish. It means that you must taste all experiences and always seek the newest, shiniest thing. It focuses on your experience. It spreads you too thin. You become a dopamine addict by tasting and trying everything. You can’t go deep into a specific topic because you say a lot of yeses and sacrifice your...
A selfish goal is unattainable. When you want people to love you, and if you try forcing your way in, you’ll never be loved. But only when you want to learn more about others and be genuinely curious, you’ll be loved as a by-product. Self-forgetfulness will bring that as a by-product—the same for acquiring...
Wisdom is the moral quality of knowing what you don’t know; it’s learning and handling your ignorance and limitations. You can learn someone else’s knowledge, but it will be mere information for you. Turning that information into knowledge and then later wisdom, you must understand how much you don’t know. Related...
One lie I used to tell myself was that I was learning a lot from social media or content online. I used this lie as an excuse to keep consuming while lying down on my couch. Later, I realized that this was only a delusion. After shutting down social media, I realized my learning was an illusion, and it is also...
What started with an experiment of living without looking at social media turned into quitting it completely, changing my reading habits, and stopping consuming news daily. As the new step of decluttering my life, I am changing my approach to using services that heavily leverage algorithms to recommend new content,...
Charity wrote a post. It’s probably one of the things I miss the most on Twitter as well. Having the tech industry yapping about things, being a close community where you get to know a lot of opinions, and sharing what’s on your plate without the hassle of writing a blog post. That’s why I added a journal section to...
Isn’t the writing about nothing but everything at the same time? Words are written for everyone, but most are read by no one. If nobody reads them, then why do we write? I claim that I write for myself, but I rarely read them again. Writing is for the clarity of the thought, but 99.99% of thoughts are still...
Leaders deliberately plan to develop products or deliver projects. However, they rarely pay similar attention to building trust. They see trust as “natural” or “part of being a decent human being.” What they don’t know is that if they take a few intentional steps, they can actually build trust more efficiently and...
One of the things I miss the most in my software engineering job is being able to close the computer and stop doing the work. The work needs an external tool that you depend on. The manager’s job is different. You rarely need an external tool, and you can’t really turn off your brain, especially when you have a...
One of my previous managers told me, “The manager’s work happens in meetings,” while I was complaining about the lack of uninterrupted time. Now, I can say that my manager was only half right. Considering one-on-ones, alignment, check-in, decision-making and many other meetings, it’s true that most of the work...
