Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

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When talent is scarce in the job market, people can negotiate by telling companies that they have other offers standing. This will help them get a better counteroffer. However, it will work much worse for the hiring manager, as their...
We are consistent with how we define ourselves. We stick to our commitments toward others (not really for ourselves). In other people’s eyes, we do whatever it takes to live up to our words. It sometimes causes us trouble (like people in...
The manager (the heart of the job—thinking) does the job by thinking, not when they get information about something. Understanding the information requires reflecting and thinking, which can be done anywhere, anytime. Hence, managers...
People follow authority without knowing. The authority doesn’t even have to be an expert in the field. They follow fake authorities, such as an actor with a lab coat playing a doctor role in advertisements, influencing people’s health...
Establishing authority with command doesn’t work; it generates resentment. Building authority demands showing vulnerability, accepting failure, and building trust. Then, people will follow the authority even more. The same applies to...
Initiators use the social proof principle to make their ideas work, even when the idea is incorrect. Leaders in companies or political parties convince a group of people first about an idea. Using that group, they show others that they...
Peer-suasion is a strong behavior. We follow others who are like us. The similarity bonds even further, and people do even more similar things. This is also visible in teenagers; they rebel against their parents but strongly follow the...
Suppose there is a long queue in front of a restaurant or café, too many product reviews for a product, or many people rushing to buy something, and we follow them. In that case, we need to stop and ask ourselves: “Do I really want that...
Whenever you win a victory or succeed, that’s the moment you’re the most vulnerable. Your feelings of success blind you, and you underestimate luck’s role in your success. That’s the moment you make the biggest mistake. When you win, get...
We need to separate two things to make better decisions: the person who offers us something and the offer itself. Before agreeing with the person (be it a sales manager, leader or friend), we can ask ourselves, “Do I like this person...
Vulnerability is not what you think. You don’t need to communicate every emotion inside. But, inside, you have to let all of them out. You have to face all of them by yourself, find all your feelings, acknowledge them, and name them. You...
The craft of leadership and management lies in metacognition. Not only leadership but decision-making in general. The right decisions will always be tricky, but real progress will come from reflecting on how we thought before and looking...
Whatever we talk about, whatever we preach comes from doubt. We never try to convince others about things that will indeed happen. It’s the things that we have doubts about. We don’t admit that we have doubts when we follow a strong idea...
The main difference between a company (or business owner) and employees in terms of cash flow: Employees pay taxes from their income first; then, they pay their expenses. Business owners pay expenses first from their income; then, they...
The other lesson I learned about financing is to keep track of your expenses. Once you do, you can see how much you spend, prepare for future payments, and spend the money where you want rather than randomly. Reply via email | Reply via...

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