Candost's Blog

Candost's Blog

Candost

I used to think that reading would make me wise. One day, ten pages before finishing a book, I realized that I had read that same book before. At that point, my perspective on reading and, therefore, my life had changed. Now, I don’t care how many books I read; I take many notes, connect dots, and share what I’ve found on my blog and newsletter. I’m interested in many things at the same time (I’m a multipotentialite). On this blog, you’ll find me talking to about multiple aspects of life like leadership, software engineering, philosophy, psychology, software architecture & design, urban & industrial design, exercising, finance, Formula1 Racing, eating healthy, and many more. I’m a software engineering manager; that’s my current job. At home, I’m a writer and an avid reader. I rarely watch TV, movies or TV series. I don’t have any social media account (except Mastodon where I have automated posting of my new articles). Hence, I often miss the popular culture references in conversations. That’s alright. I don’t have FOMO; I embrace JOMO. I rarely read fictional books.

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Peer-suasion is a strong behavior. We follow others who are like us. The similarity bonds even further, and people do even more similar things. This is also visible in teenagers; they rebel against their parents but strongly follow the...
Suppose there is a long queue in front of a restaurant or café, too many product reviews for a product, or many people rushing to buy something, and we follow them. In that case, we need to stop and ask ourselves: “Do I really want that...
Whenever you win a victory or succeed, that’s the moment you’re the most vulnerable. Your feelings of success blind you, and you underestimate luck’s role in your success. That’s the moment you make the biggest mistake. When you win, get...
We need to separate two things to make better decisions: the person who offers us something and the offer itself. Before agreeing with the person (be it a sales manager, leader or friend), we can ask ourselves, “Do I like this person...
Vulnerability is not what you think. You don’t need to communicate every emotion inside. But, inside, you have to let all of them out. You have to face all of them by yourself, find all your feelings, acknowledge them, and name them. You...
The craft of leadership and management lies in metacognition. Not only leadership but decision-making in general. The right decisions will always be tricky, but real progress will come from reflecting on how we thought before and looking...
Whatever we talk about, whatever we preach comes from doubt. We never try to convince others about things that will indeed happen. It’s the things that we have doubts about. We don’t admit that we have doubts when we follow a strong idea...
The main difference between a company (or business owner) and employees in terms of cash flow: Employees pay taxes from their income first; then, they pay their expenses. Business owners pay expenses first from their income; then, they...
The other lesson I learned about financing is to keep track of your expenses. Once you do, you can see how much you spend, prepare for future payments, and spend the money where you want rather than randomly. Reply via email | Reply via...
As an engineering director (or manager of managers at any level), you need to compartmentalize your teams around visions. Ask yourself what your vision for the group is. As a director, you don’t have full context on anything, so don’t...
As an engineering director, you should reduce your time on operational topics and increase your strategic thinking. Create space on your calendar to see how much time you spend on operational topics, and then reduce it. Related Note(s):...
When you want people who don’t know or like each other to work well together, assign them tasks that require cooperation. These tasks should not be achievable by only one side; they must utilize the skills and knowledge of both parties....
As a leader, your name should be attached to good things so that people will like you and follow you more. Not only good things but good people, too. When presenting or talking with others, be careful with what you are attaching yourself...
The more comfortable you are with yourself, the less you need the approval of others. If you know yourself and your strengths, weaknesses, and shortcomings, you’ll need less confirmation from outside. It’s a matter of awareness. If you...
Transparency ≠ Saying everything Transparency = Sharing the full context Why do many leaders struggle with being transparent? They fall short of their egos. They want to make decisions. That's why they became leaders, right? Wrong. The...

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